On loss, grief, and the things that change form but never disappear.
I write often about what is. What exists, what is happening, what is being built or broken in the world around us. I write less often about what is no longer here. Today I want to write about that. The Illusion That Breaks There is a version of the world we are given when we are young. It is not a lie, exactly. It is more like a necessary shelter; a soft understanding that the people we love will be there, that life moves forward in a mostly predictable way, that the foundations beneath us are solid and permanent. And then loss arrives. Not loss in the abstract. Real loss. The specific, irreplaceable kind; a person who was not just loved but load-bearing. Someone whose presence shaped how you understood yourself and the world around you. When that happens, the illusion doesn't crack. It disappears. All at once, without warning, and with a clarity that is almost brutal. You see, perhaps for the first time, how fragile all of it is. How little time is guaranteed. How much you assumed...